Years can go by, but the pain of losing a child or the pain of infertility remain, with couples often suffering silently.
The Catholic Diocese of Cleveland hosted the annual Mass of Silent Sorrow on Oct. 25 in the Cathedral of St. John the Evangelist during which prayers were offered for those who suffered the loss of a child before or after birth and those struggling with infertility.
Bishop Edward Malesic said the subject of the Mass is difficult, but noted that by praying with those who are suffering they will understand that we want them to have God’s consolation. The bishop said he understands their grief because during his years as a priest, people confided in him as they struggled with loss – before or after a pregnancy -- or with the inability to conceive a child.
“Often they grieved in silence,” he said, explaining the name of the Mass.
“We are moved to walk toward the resurrection,” Bishop Malesic said, encouraging those who are struggling with these losses not to stay stuck in their grief, but to move forward and allow the Lord to help them with their struggles.
Relating to the readings, he said God knew us before our birth and he gave us a name.
“Even if a life is here for only a few days or years or 100 years, God takes care of that life,” he said.
Jesus tells us that each child who is lost has an angel in heaven, the bishop said. “What a beautiful image. I imagine these children have playful spirits. Someday, they will meet you in heaven and will call you by name – mom, dad, brother or sister.”
The bishop said his own mother lost two children as adults – a daughter and a son. “She was a woman of great faith, and that faith got her through the grief,” he said.
“May God bless all our children – in heaven and on earth.”
Parents who suffered the loss of a child or who struggle with infertility were invited to come forward after the homily to light a votive candle in their memory.
After Mass, Bishop Malesic blessed the congregation and spent time greeting people.